The Carey Nieuwhof Leadership Podcast

Dr. Alison Cook discusses how therapy has become the new church. She and Carey also discuss the dangers of spiritual bypassing, what to do when you want to escape your life, and how much cognitive dissonance is normal for leaders.

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1:1 Meeting Guide

The Art of Leadership Live

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TIMESTAMPS:

The rise of therapy in the culture (00:00:01)

Therapy as the new church (00:00:20)

The intersection of faith and psychology (00:02:04)

Challenges in the church regarding mental health (00:04:38)

The dangers of spiritual bypassing (00:19:02)

The need for deep transformational work (00:28:34)

The impact of compulsive availability (00:31:15)

The normality of escape fantasies and cognitive dissonance (00:39:01)

Dealing with shame in a religious context (00:46:13)

Shame and its neurobiology (00:46:15)

Understanding shame and guilt (00:47:15)

The practice of Naming, Framing, and Braving (00:50:51)

The challenge of numbness in leadership (00:53:51)

Addressing toxic leadership situations (01:01:59)

Options for dealing with toxic environments (01:06:46)

The importance of healthy communities (01:08:59)

 

 

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Every organization and every church has them: toxic people. But how do you spot them? In this teaching, Carey Nieuwhof covers six subtle signs leaders miss. Carey outlines exactly what you need to do to make sure you limit the impact of toxic people in your church and shows you what you need to do to stack your team with healthy leaders.

Show Notes

1:1 Meeting Guide

The Art of Leadership Live

On The Rise Newsletter

Preaching Cheat Sheet

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This episode is sponsored by:

THE ART OF TEAM LEADERSHIP

Thousands of leaders have used the material in The Art of Team Leadership to grow their leadership and learn how to better lead, manage, and motivate a team. You can learn more by visiting theartofteamleadershipcourse.com.

 

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TIMESTAMPS:

Toxicity and its Impact (00:00:04)

Introduction to Toxic People (00:01:02)

Recognizing Toxic Behavior (00:02:51)

Metaphor of Toxicity (00:04:53)

The Leader's Role in Addressing Toxicity (00:06:49)

Obvious Signs of Toxic Behavior (00:07:50)

Subtle Signs of Toxic Behavior (00:08:55)

Reciprocity and Dominance in Relationships (00:11:05)

Seeking Attention and Hijacking Conversations (00:13:27)

Early Engagement and Frequent Communication (00:14:30)

The signs of toxic behavior (00:16:20)

Types of people: Wise, foolish, and evil (00:19:12)

Dealing with foolish behavior (00:23:19)

Handling evil people (00:25:33)

Stacking the organization with wise people (00:27:36)

Creating a healthy culture (00:28:47)

 

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Legendary leadership expert Ken Blanchard and Randy Conley talk about the backstory of the One Minute Manager. They also discuss seagull management, the power of simplicity and brevity, and how to stay fit, engaged, and contributing at age 85.

Show Notes

The Art of Leadership Live

On The Rise Newsletter

Preaching Cheat Sheet

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This episode is sponsored by:

COMPASSION

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TIMESTAMPS:

Co-authorship and Writing Process (00:07:40)

The One Minute Manager (00:18:28)

Spiritual Foundation of Leadership (00:24:23)

Simplicity in Leadership (00:26:30)

Development of Situational Leadership (00:29:10)

Focus on Middle Management (00:35:32)

Influencing Top Managers (00:37:19)

Seagull Management (00:37:54)

Creating Memorable Metaphors (00:39:21)

Ego's Anonymous (00:41:27)

Servant Leadership (00:48:44)

Refiring at 85 (00:50:52)

Longevity in an Organization (00:55:07)

The One Minute Reprimand to Redirect (00:59:45)

Fear and Trust (01:00:55)

Unequal Treatment and Fairness (01:03:38)

Leadership in Absence (01:05:53)

Collaboration and Leadership (01:10:01)

 

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Direct download: CNLP_657_With_Ken-Blanchard-and-Randy-Conley.mp3
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James (JP) Poulter talks about the best and worst-case scenarios for AI in the next decade, practical AI tools you should start using now, and the pastoral implications for AI for every church leader.

Show Notes

The Art of Leadership Live

On The Rise Newsletter

Preaching Cheat Sheet

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Follow @theartofleadershipnetwork

 

This episode is sponsored by:

THE ART OF LEADERSHIP LIVE

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TIMESTAMPS:

Discussion on the threats of AI (00:05:53)

Ethical considerations in technology development (00:13:21)

Worst Case Scenarios for AI (00:21:57)

Best Case Scenarios for AI (00:25:49)

Perplexity and Beautiful AI (00:29:40)

Comparison of Cloud and ChatGPT (00:32:09)

Training Data and Applications of Language Models (00:35:11)

Conversational AI and its Importance (00:38:50)

Ecclesia's Agenda (00:42:34)

Church's response to AI (00:46:56)

Integration of AI in ministry (00:48:27)

Understanding and using AI responsibly (00:50:07)

Transparency and disclosure with AI usage (00:54:49)

Ethical Use of AI (01:02:01)

Humanizing Tasks with AI (01:03:46)

AI in Church Ministry (01:07:43)

Empowering with AI (01:09:12)

Responsibility and regulation (01:12:47)

 

 

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William Ury, co-founder of the Harvard Program on Negotiation and one of the world's leading experts on negotiation, coaches leaders on how to fire underperforming staff and handle angry church members. Plus, he shares strategies and tactics he's used negotiating with Donald Trump, Kim Jong Un (and Dennis Rodman), de-escalating nuclear conflict and negotiating peace in the Middle East.

Show Notes

The Art of Leadership Live

On The Rise Newsletter

Preaching Cheat Sheet

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TIMESTAMPS:

William Ury's background and expertise (00:03:07)

The impact of Ury's paper on Middle East peace negotiations (00:07:48)

The role of anthropology in negotiation (00:15:53)

Case study: Camp David negotiations (00:19:06)

Reframing positions into Interests (00:33:41)

Averting Nuclear War (00:36:33)

Trump's Victory Speech (00:38:35)

Meeting Dennis Rodman (00:39:32)

Negotiating with Kim Jong Un (00:41:14)

The Framework (00:45:53)

Negotiating with yourself (00:47:02)

Negotiation strategies (00:57:16)

The Third Side (00:57:46)

Leadership and conflict resolution (01:00:30)

Congregational conflict (01:01:54)

Negotiation and compromise (01:03:48)

Conflict in staff management (01:11:26)

Dealing with employee layoffs (01:15:20)

Handling emotionally charged situations (01:16:26)

Negotiating with a president (01:20:03)

Managing conflict in a congregational setting (01:24:40)

Navigating turbulent times in the church (01:32:04)

Negotiation insights (01:34:43)

The role of the church in conflict resolution (01:55:56)

 

 

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Direct download: CNLP_655_With_WIlliam-Ury.mp3
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Matt Chandler joins the conversation today and opens up about hitting the wall in his late thirties. He discusses recovering from a dead heart and from brain cancer, lessons he learned from his leave of absence after an Instagram exchange, and gives some incredibly insightful lessons on how to revitalize a dying church.

Show Notes

The Art of Leadership Live

On The Rise Newsletter

Preaching Cheat Sheet

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Follow @careynieuwhof

Follow @theartofleadershipnetwork

 

This episode is sponsored by:

THE ART OF LEADERSHIP LIVE

I recently took a look at the list of leaders who are registered for my first ever conference this September in Dallas, Texas - The Art of Leadership Live and let me tell you, it's shaping up to be quite a stellar group of people.

I'm already excited to connect with a number of people I've met before — some of whom have even been guests on this podcast

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TIMESTAMPS:

Impact of childhood experiences on extroversion (00:07:05)

Realization of calling to ministry (00:09:01)

Struggles and self-awareness in late 30s (00:15:36)

The impact of childhood on identity (00:19:26)

Communication style and personal experiences (00:22:50)

Revitalization of Village Church (00:29:01)

Challenges and changes in leadership (00:31:06)

Challenges of church growth (00:36:26)

Lessons from mistakes (00:43:08)

Facing personal crisis (00:47:18)

Empathy for those in distress (00:56:57)

Lessons from a ministry interruption (00:59:30)

Power imbalance and influence (01:08:37)

Enduring marriage and leadership (01:11:42)

Living out the Gospel in daily life (01:17:43)

The Overcomers Podcast and Book (01:20:52)

 

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Direct download: CNLP_654_With_Matt-Chandler.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 5:05am EDT